Are You Playing Base Coach in Your Relationships?

Because you are up to bat, baby.

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When people describe their relationship problems in therapy, I ask myself, “Do they put themselves on the field or not?”

In my book True to You, I wrote about how overfunctioning often can look like third base coaching. When stress is high, we tend to put our focus on other people’s functioning (their immaturity and choices). So we show up to other people’s games with a lot of ideas about whether they should speed up or slow down.