The Anxious Overachiever

The Anxious Overachiever

How Does a Relationship Learn to Rewire?

The long ride to the outside of conflict.

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Kathleen Smith
Jun 17, 2026
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Two young foxes play fighting. Source: Shutterstock

Quick reminder that I’m giving a clinical conference about my therapy work with the Center for Family Consultation on July 10th, online. And you can catch me in person or online next Wed, June 24, 7pm, interviewing Dr. Jenny Brown about her new book.

I’ve been thinking a lot about interpersonal conflict lately. Probably because I’ve been watching a lot of Fleetwood Mac documentaries. (Look, it’s summer. I’ll have goals in the fall.)

Conflict is often the pressure for sameness. My thoughts should be your thoughts. My reaction should be your reaction. Why don’t you care about this as much as I do? Why can’t you be as calm as I am about this?

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