The Anxious Overachiever

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The Perfect Amount of Relationship Stress

The Perfect Amount of Relationship Stress

How playing with anxiety makes life interesting.

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Kathleen Smith
Nov 07, 2023
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What do we call the optimal amount of stress? Being engaged, engrossed, and challenged. Being stimulated. Playing. The core of psychological stress is loss of control and predictability. But in benevolent settings we happily relinquish control and predictability to be challenged by the unexpected—a dip in the roller coaster tracks, a plot twist, a diffi…

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