Want to stir things up? Move towards someone.

How contact teaches us something about our relationships.

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Distance makes it hard to see how relationship systems function. Like dust, the tension settles, and you lose the opportunity to learn something about yourself and others.

Moving towards people and seeing what happens is a lifelong education. The anxiety gets stirred up, and the patterns to manage it kick in. Through contact, you learn how triangles function in a family or group.

Let me give you a few examples of the triangles that will pop up when you move towards someone.