Where People Put the Problem

And how they begin to function better.

Ring-tailed lemur family. Source: Shutterstock

When people describe their challenges, I pay attention to where they put the problem.

Does the problem reside in others? Are others the key to things getting better?

• “If he would just start doing X. . .”

• “If they would believe what I believe. . .”

• “If she would just be more responsible for herself. . .”