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Jan 30Liked by Kathleen Smith

Loved this. It's so easy for me to focus all my efforts on the other. It's like I can't handle the thought that I'm responsible for my own feelings. Thanks for your work.

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Do you think that we tend to default towards a desire to change others rather than to change ourselves? If so, why do we do this? Trying to change ourselves is always more effective than trying to change others.

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Thank you for outlining this here. Super helpful. Wish I had done more of this in my marriage. For me, too much of ‘doing my own thing’ lead to too much disconnection. I do think it had to if I had been more mindful of some of these tools, I could have fostered our sharing/connection more intentionally. Though Lawd knows I tried!

But it takes two to tango, right?

And it’s a fine balance. I wonder if you’ve written about that?

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Thank you for outlining this here. Super helpful. Wish I had done more of this in my marriage, I doubt that too much ‘doing my own thing’ lead to too much disconnection. I do t think it had to if I had been more mindful of some of these tools.

And it’s a fine balance. I wonder if you’ve written about that?

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