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A Different Way to Think About Your Family's "Dysfunction"
How appreciating relationship patterns can help us change them.
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Kathleen Smith
Being the Captain of Your Own Ship
Relying less on relationship patterns to manage your anxiety.
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Kathleen Smith
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A Different Way of Thinking About Burnout
How we end up feeling both exhausted and unproductive.
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Kathleen Smith
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Cracking Open a Closed Relationship System
How to help your family or organization solve problems, without trying to fix anyone.
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Kathleen Smith
August 2023
Why We "Convert" People When We're Anxious
How to choose connection over changing others.
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Kathleen Smith
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The Power of Contact
How to focus on being present, not perfect, in relationships.
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Kathleen Smith
The Trap of Changing Yourself to Change Others
Stop chasing after a magic fix, and try thinking differently about your relationships.
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Kathleen Smith
The Space Between Changing Each Other
Learning to live outside of relationship pressure
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Kathleen Smith
2
June 2023
Why We Compare Ourselves to Others
And how to live a more self-directed life.
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Kathleen Smith
4
May 2023
The Cycle of Overfunctioning and Distancing
How to stay connected without taking over or taking off.
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Kathleen Smith
How We End Up Fixating On Others' Immaturity
And what we lose when we're always in blame mode.
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Kathleen Smith
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Tired of superficial connection? It's time to get creative.
A list of ideas for bridging distance in your relationships.
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Kathleen Smith
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