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Lisa Lewton's avatar

I really appreciate “being inside the relationship but outside the patterns.” So helpful. And as always your examples are so relevant to my life!

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Kathleen Smith's avatar

Thank you, Lisa!

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Linds's avatar

I love this concept! It really appeals to me as a creative exercise, too-- find ways to not "play along" with what's expected while still engaging with the issue at hand.

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Rs's avatar

Changing the patterns definitely drives up the anxiety in the internal system, too. Have to keep imagining the flexibility and space that will come from sticking with new ways.

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Kathleen Smith's avatar

You got it!

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Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD's avatar

Beautiful and practical examples of choosing not to pick up the gauntlet!

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