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Aug 28Liked by Kathleen Smith

I really appreciate “being inside the relationship but outside the patterns.” So helpful. And as always your examples are so relevant to my life!

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Thank you, Lisa!

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Aug 27Liked by Kathleen Smith

I love this concept! It really appeals to me as a creative exercise, too-- find ways to not "play along" with what's expected while still engaging with the issue at hand.

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Aug 27Liked by Kathleen Smith

This is a real boon to being stronger in the face of pressure from people we live or like! Thanks!

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Aug 30Liked by Kathleen Smith

Changing the patterns definitely drives up the anxiety in the internal system, too. Have to keep imagining the flexibility and space that will come from sticking with new ways.

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You got it!

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Beautiful and practical examples of choosing not to pick up the gauntlet!

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