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This is just fabulous! I never print things off from the internet, but this is a definite exception....

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I have an add for the bingo card: hanging out with the kids to avoid the adults. For me it’s either serving/cleaning or the kids, to avoid the adults. It wasn’t always this way, but there’s such a mix of people now like my kids in laws from different sides, it hardly feels like family anymore and I’m older than most now, everything is so different than it was when I was growing up, so I’d rather just hang out and play games with the grandkids.

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Thanks for the add! While building relationships with children is just as important, it's useful to pay attention to our automatic behaviors. "Is there an adult person-to-person relationship I want to work on building, while also having some fun with the kids?" could be a useful question.

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I’ll try to try that. I’ll let you know how it goes.

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It went well. I managed to incorporate serving with communicating with the adults in a meaningful relationship building way, which seemed to be well accepted and reciprocated.

I also got some time in playing with the kids, though not as much as when I’m sticking primarily with that activity as my go-to method of avoidance of adults. Lol.

I’m no spring chicken so it was all exhausting but overall a great day. Good advice and suggestions.

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Okay, I’m feeling a little stupid, here, but I can’t figure out how to print it. (Substack doesn’t allow me to copy images from posts the way most social media does.) Is there a link to a pdf that I missed or something?

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Thank you, Kathleen!

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