Archive - The Anxious Overachiever

Not Everything Has to Be Discussed

Are you talking about your feelings to manage tension?

Jul 10 •

Why We're So Allergic to Being Managed

And why our efforts to direct others often backfire.

Jul 1 •

June 2025

10 Questions for the Middle of the Year

Where has your energy gone, and where do you want it to go?

Jun 26 •

Want to stir things up? Move towards someone.

How contact teaches us something about our relationships.

Jun 20 •

Staying Smart When Others Are Anxious

Responding to the ideas, not the intensity.

Jun 9 •

Here's One for the Impatient Folks

How boredom can help us move towards ourselves.

Jun 4 •

May 2025

Your Relationships Aren't a To-Do List

How people get interested in good contact

May 30 •

In Favor of Friction

The false promise of "seamless" relationships

May 20 •

Have You Considered that People Are Capable?

Relating to people's strengths rather than their sensitivity.

May 14 •

Becoming Less Allergic to the Reactivity in Others

How neutrality changes the relationship equation

May 8 •

April 2025

The Hidden Tension Behind Your Talking

Are you saying something, or are you managing something?

Apr 30 •

Where People Put the Problem

And how they begin to function better.

Apr 21 •

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